5 Tips on Managing Your toddler

My Toddler Drives Me Crazy!

By Jodie Lynn
eDiets Guest Columnist

Who knew your bundle of joy would become a teasing, silly toddler, who resembles a mimicking parrot, repeating everything he hears. Who knew that he would throw a temper tantrum, constantly say "no" and pull off his diaper running naked around the house, quickly leaping out the door and streaking in the front door in front of jaw-dropped neighbors?

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Well, guess what? We all go through it. However, don't let the little tyke run you bananas. Here are a few parenting tips that will surely make life with your toddler a tad easier:

1. Stop, look and listen. While your toddler may not be making sense to you, if you will tune in to what he is trying to say, you might just get it. He is overwhelmed with energy in learning all about his newfound developmental abilities and is surely trying to move forward in his own interpretation of all of the incredible adventures in this big old world. When he gets excited, get motivated to speak his body language and play along. When things get too wacky, reel him back into the real world ever so slowly without labeling, yelling or screaming.

2. Talk to your toddler, not at him. When talking to your toddler, interject some of his high-rolling emotions into the conversation between the two of you. If he does something that you totally approve, dance and clap your hands in joy while implementing the same reaction and energy into the tone of your voice: "WHOOHOO! Way to go Jacob! Good job!"

3. Treat children the way you want to be treated. Everyone wants to be heard, and toddlers are no different. As adults, we are usually taught to validate our friends' feelings, and those feelings of other significant importance, by repeating back to them what they have just conveyed to us. After doing so, the normal reaction will be that their feelings have been confirmed. They feel "heard."

Now, you are ready to voice your own concerns. Sound too grown up? It's not. Toddlers learn by how others' react to everything that they experience throughout a day. It doesn't matter if it's an evoked positive or negative reaction to something that they have done or said, or to what someone else has done or said to a situation (including the pets!). Don't forget that they are always listening and watching.

4. Brief conversations with your toddler are priceless. Keep conversational interaction brief. Toddlers learn best by repetition. Forget long-winded explanations and use short sentences, suggestions and commands for the very best tolerance, and understanding, by a toddler. There will be a time and place for more in-depth explanations as he gets older.

5. Brag on baby. When your toddler has done something great (and has displayed acceptable behavior), go ahead and brag to others about what he has just accomplished. Call Daddy, Grandma, Aunt or even tell some of his favorite objects: stuffed pals (his favorite bear, hand puppet, etc.), a family pet, next door playmate’s mom, or maybe his favorite online character, like Elmo, Big Bird, etc. Just let him hear and "see" you smiling.

Always remember to put yourself in your toddler's shoes and remind yourself that while he seems terribly smart, witty and capable of understanding everything you say, he's only been on this Earth for a mere two-years or shorter and can't possibly fathom everything you think he should.

Having a little patience will prove to be an amazingly smart parenting tool in helping you get through the demanding and ever-constant perplexing wacky world of toddlers.

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Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Her syndicated column Parent to Parent (www.ParentToParent.com) has been successful for over 10 years and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to several sites including eDiets.com, KeepKidsHealthy.com, ClubMom.com, BabyUniverse.com, and MainStreetMom.com. Lynn has written four books and contributed to three others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest books are Mom CEO (Chief Everything Officer)TM - Having, Doing, and Surviving It All! (June 2006) and Syndication Secrets - What No One Will Tell You! (March 2006). Check www.ParentToParent.com for details on new radio talk show, Inside Parenting Success.

Teens and Kids Body Image Problem

Children Obsessed with Image

By Dr. Susan Mendelsohn
eDiets Psychologist
For the Trim Kids

Is your child becoming obsessed with his/her looks? Have you noticed a change in your child's emotional state... a change specifically related to his/her body image? Is your child acting out in ways that differ from before? Do you attribute these changes to puberty?

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If you think these are normal growing pains, please reconsider. True, children go through stages. However, when these stages are extreme and maladaptive, it's time to intervene.

Eating disorders and other weight problems know no boundaries. As human beings, we have a tendency to overemphasize the superficial components of ourselves (body weight, shape, size and overall physical appearance), resulting in thousands of unhappy and seriously depressed young adults and children.

It's time to break this unhealthy relationship between weight and worth!

I have compiled some guidelines for helping your child cope with their ever-changing bodies. Please step in before it's too late.

1. Consider the ways in which your beliefs, attitudes and behaviors about your own body and the bodies of others have been shaped by the forces of sexism. Then, educate your child about:(a) the basic genetic differences in body types, and (b) the nature of prejudice.

2. Closely analyze your dreams and goals for your children and other loved ones. Ask yourself if you are overemphasizing beauty, body shape or weight (especially for girls).

3. Avoid placing judgments upon individuals who do not meet your standards for beauty. Refrain from stating something such as, "I'll love you more if you would just lose a few pounds," or "don't eat so much,"쳌 or "you should try to look just like those models." Give your child unconditional positive regard. This means: accept your child as a worthwhile human being, despite his/her faults. Weight should never factor into your child's worth!

4. Reduce teasing, criticism and staring. These behaviors only serve to reinforce the disapproval of being overweight and the admiration of slenderness.

5. Educate yourself and discuss with your children the dangers of trying to alter one's body shape through dieting. Utilize the holistic program that eDiets offers to help yourself and your child learn what's healthy and what's not.

6. Learn about and discuss with your children the value of moderate exercising for stamina and cardiovascular fitness.

7. Learn about -- and discuss with your children -- the importance of eating a variety of foods in well-balanced meals. Consume these meals at least three times a day.

8. Avoid labeling foods as "good" or "bad."쳌 Do not dichotomize foods into good, safe, no fat or low fat vs. bad, dangerous or fattening.

9. Be a good role model in regard to sensible eating, sensible exercise and self-acceptance.

10. Make a commitment to exercise for your health rather than your weight. Feel good about exercise for the joy of feeling your body function effectively rather than for purposes of purging your body to compensate for calories eaten.

11. Make a commitment to not avoid activities such as swimming, dancing and sunbathing simply because they call attention to your weight and shape.

12. Refuse to wear clothes that are uncomfortable or that you dislike simply because they divert attention away from your weight or shape.

13. Practice appreciating human beings (especially women) for who they are and what they are saying, thinking and feeling, rather than for their body size and shape.

14. Make a commitment to help your children appreciate and resist ways in which television, magazines and other forms of media distort the true diversity of body types. (Unfortunately, the media often makes a correlation between slim and powerful, exciting and sensual.)

15. Do not limit your child's caloric intake unless a physician has instructed you to do so for the sake of their physical health. For more information on children's nutrition, please contact the Trim Kids dietitian.

16. Allow and encourage your child to be active and to enjoy what their bodies can do and feel like doing.

17. Give boys and girls the same encouragement and opportunities.

18. Be careful never to suggest that girls are less important than boys. Make sure their household responsibilities are divided evenly, without establishing stereotypical rules for male or female activities.

19. Promote the self-esteem and self-respect of your children in every aspect of their being, including intellectual, athletic and social endeavors.

This list of guidelines will not only enhance your overall relationship with your children (making you closer and more intimate), but also reduce the chance of them developing a distorted body image and/or a serious eating disorder later in life.

Now, that's a treat for everyone!

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What can I do to minimize the junk food?

How Can I Curb Kids and Fast Food?

By Nicki Anderson
Special for eDiets

Dear Nicki:
My three boys are very involved in sports, and I find myself picking up fast food almost five nights a week. What can I do to minimize the junk food?
-- Name Withheld

According to a report in the Journal of the American Medical Association, kids who eat fast food end up consuming more calories throughout the day than kids who do not eat fast food.

The study also found that more than half of the daily calorie consumption of fast-food eaters came from just one fast-food meal.

Bottom line, overindulgence of fast food is hazardous to our children's health. I recommend having plenty of healthy foods available for your kids. I usually keep fresh fruit and veggies chopped up in the fridge ready to eat. The more available you make healthy food, the more likely your children are to eat it. It’s all about planning and preparation.

For many kids and families, getting away from fast food is tough because it is so convenient. Soup and sandwiches can be healthy alternatives. But if you don’t have time and MUST opt for fast food, skip the fries and ask for extra lettuce and tomato. The better choices your kids can make now, the better their health will be later.

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Nicki Anderson is the owner of Reality Fitness Inc. in Naperville, IL, and the founder of Nicki Anderson’s Real Life Weight Loss. She is also a frequent contributor to eDiets.com, health and fitness columnist for the Daily Herald in suburban Chicago, and author of Reality Fitness; Inspiration for Your Health and Well-Being (New World Library). Learn more about Nicki at www.real-life-weight-loss.com.

South Beach Diet For Kids And Teens

Raising Healthy Kids

From South Beach Diet

Much like adults, children have constant access to unhealthy foods. Unfortunately, a lot of this access comes during the school day in the form of pizza, French fries, soda, and cookies. Fortunately, if you're following the eating principles of the South Beach Diet, you're setting a great example for your children, which is the first step toward teaching them healthy eating habits. Need more tips to encourage your children to eat healthfully while at school? Here are some helpful strategies:

• Involve your children in the decision-making process. Ask them what foods they would like to have for lunch, and gently steer them toward healthy options. For example, does your child like salty snacks? Pack nuts or high-fiber, whole-grain crackers.
• Include at least one "fun food" in their lunch bags, which will teach them that healthy food can also be cool. Good fun choices include fresh fruit with natural peanut butter for a dip, reduced-fat cheese sticks, and sugar-free gelatin or pudding cups. Another option for young children is to cut whole-grain sandwiches into fun shapes with cookie cutters. Or give them foods they can assemble themselves, like sliced cheese, lean deli meats, and whole-grain wraps.
• Liven up veggies. Cut up an assortment of colorful, crunchy dippers (think red peppers, carrots, and cucumbers), and pair them with hummus or a South Beach Diet-approved salad dressing (packaged in a sealable container).
• Provide entertainment in the form of notes, stickers, and certificates. This turns an ordinary lunch box into a fast-food-style kids' meal (minus the unhealthy trans and saturated fats and processed carbs) so your child will be more likely to enjoy the rest of the offerings.

Dr. Arthur Agatston, preventive cardiologist and author of The South Beach Diet, is also dedicated to improving children's health. In 2004, Dr. Agatston founded The Agatston Research Foundation with the goals of improving the heart health and wellness of the nation through research, education, and prevention. One of the studies being conducted and funded through the foundation is The Healthier Options for Public Schoolchildren (HOPS) Study, which is designed to test the feasibility of improving school meals and snacks in a public school setting. For more information on HOPS -- and to read about the other research funded and conducted by the Agatston Research Foundation — visit the Research section on the Agatston Research

Best Bets for Breakfast Rush

It's not always easy getting your kids to eat breakfast as you're rushing to work and they're rushing to school. Still, as you've learned following the sound nutrition principles of the South Beach Diet, it's important for every member of your household to eat a healthy breakfast. Thankfully, the first meal of the day doesn't have to be a big production. Here are a few simple ways to squeeze in the morning meal and set your family up for a successful day.

• Make breakfast the night before. Try a tasty, grab-n-go South Beach Diet recipe like Sausage and Cheese Breakfast Cups or a Sunrise Parfait.
• Keep the basics on hand. Nothing's easier (or quicker) than a bowl of high-fiber, whole-grain cereal and low-fat milk or a container of artificially sweetened low-fat yogurt. (When choosing a cereal, look for one with less than 8 grams of sugar per serving.) Balance out the meal with a piece of fresh fruit.
• Pack breakfast. If you or your child is running late, pack a to-go meal. Low-fat cottage cheese, mixed nuts, and part-skim mozzarella cheese sticks are quick and handy choices.
• Sign up for school breakfasts. All children who attend schools participating in the School Breakfast Program are eligible to partake in breakfast, regardless of income. Consult your administrator to find out if your child's school offers breakfast for its students.

Great School Lunches, After-School Snacks

By Merilee Kern
CEO of healthykidscatalog.com
For eDiets

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In preparing for "back to school" season, you surely hit more than your fair share of stores in search of new clothes for your ever-growing child, along with a litany of school supplies too numerous to name.

Don't forget healthy school lunches and after-school snacks as you plan for the school year.

With this in mind, here are a few dietary suggestions on how to assure a happy school day is also a healthy school day:

Lean meat, such as shaved ham or turkey, on whole-grain bread or in a wheat wrap with some lettuce, low- or fat-free cheese and a touch of low- or fat-free mayonnaise or mustard is sure to please... and nourish.

Even the quintessential children's sandwich PB&J can be made in a healthy way these days. Many peanut butter brands now offer low-fat and low-sodium versions. That, coupled with an all-fruit, sugar-free jelly on whole-grain bread makes this school cafeteria staple a guiltless pleasure.

• Tuna fish is jam packed with oh-so-beneficial omega-3 fatty acids. When mixed with low-fat mayonnaise, diced apple and, if your child likes, a bit of onion and served in a wheat pita, it's delicious.

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BLTs can also be healthy! Simply swap regular bacon for the turkey bacon variety, but eat in moderation because it still has high levels of sodium. Layer with lettuce, tomato and fat-free mayonnaise. Sandwich in whole-grain bread or roll into a pita wrap. Your child will nary know the difference between this healthy version versus its fat-packet counterpart.

What to serve on the side of the main school lunch item? Options abound: low-fat pretzels, fat- and sugar-free yogurt or cottage cheese, celery sticks filed with low-fat and low-sodium peanut butter, any kind of pre-washed fresh fruit, dried or dehydrated fruit: raisins; apricots, pears, apples, roasted or raw almonds, walnuts or peanuts (not oiled or candied), low-fat string cheese or chunked low-fat cheese, and even baked chips or healthy pita chips in moderation.

Skip the sugary juice box and send along a bottle of water to get your child in the habit of working toward his/her optimal fluid intake (experts recommend one consume about .5 ounces of water per pound of body weight).

It's common knowledge that after school is prime time for snacking, and is also a time when many kids make, shall we say, less-than-nutritious food and beverage choices.

Here are some waistline-friendly after school snack alternatives your kids are sure to love:

Potato Chips/Fries: Cut the potato(es) in the desired shape (round, rectangular, oblong, etc.). Fully coat with egg whites. Season with a touch of salt or other herbs as desired. Bake at 350 until golden brown. Serve with sugar-free catsup.

Popcorn: Air-popped popcorn. On it, drizzle a moderate amount of powered butter substitute, light Parmesan cheese or even honey for a tasty twist.

Pizza: On a fat-free/low-calorie/low-carb whole-grain tortilla (or whole-grain bagel), smear tomato paste or sauce and top with fat-free cheese, whatever veggies the child likes, and even lean meats such as ham or turkey dices. Bake at 350 until cheese is melted with a few brown spots on top.

Tortilla chips: Cut Chinese wonton squares (usually found in the produce aisle) in half diagonally so they become triangles. Spread out evenly on a baking sheet, lightly coat with cooking spray and sprinkle on a dash of salt. Bake at 350 until crunchy. Eat alone, or serve with fat-free salsa or the below-described Mexican bean dip.

Mexican bean dip: Drain and food process two 14-oz cans of black beans. Add 3/4 cup of fat-free salsa and 1/2 tablespoon of Worcestershire sauce, and blend until completely smooth. Top with a dab of fat-free sour cream, fat-free cheese, diced tomatoes, chopped green onions, etc., as desired.

Fruit smoothies are a warm-weather staple that can, and should, also be enjoyed year-round. While fruit smoothie recipes abound, it need not be a complex process. Simply blend, in amounts to your personal liking, either plain or flavored fat-free and sugar-free yogurt with skim milk, ice cubes and either fresh or frozen fruit chunks. For added sweetness, you can add a touch of honey or an artificial sweetener such as Splenda. Blend and enjoy!

Healthy ice-cream sandwiches are a snap and always a crowd pleaser! Purchase any type of round fat-free and sugar-free cookie (preferably the new whole-grain varieties) or bake any low-fat and low-calorie cookie recipe from scratch. Sandwich waistline-friendly sherbet, sorbet or gelato between two cookies and press to make a sandwich. For added excitement, flavor and visual interest, you can also roll the outside edge of the "sandwich" in chopped unsalted nuts, shredded coconut, raisins or finely diced fresh or dried fruit.

While the word "parfait" may not be in your child's vocabulary, (s)he will love making and eating this snack. In a cup or bowl, simply create thin, alternating layers of non-fat yogurt, low-fat granola (or other heart-healthy cereal product), and fruit slices or whole berries. Make as many layers of each as you like, then dig in!

And let's not forget how much colorful, jiggly Jell-O can delight, especially when it is jam-packed with diced citrus fruit.

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Merilee A. Kern is founder and CEO of Healthy Kids' Catalog, a Web-based storefront offering Solutions That Foster Healthy Children. She is also author of the award-winning fictional children's book, It's Not Your Fault That You're Overweight -- A Story of Enlightenment, Empowerment and Accomplishment for Overweight and Obese Kids.

I am 14 years old and want to lose weight but don't know how...

Question

Hi Nicki:
I am 14 years old, 5 foot 4 and 120 pounds. I want to lose weight but don't know how and the only answer I seem to be getting is to eat right. I can't really do that because no one in my house does. My mom buys the food, which usually consists of frozen pizzas, chips, popcorn.

Anyway, I cook when I can, and I love to do it, but my mom and sister don't want to eat the things I want to cook so I am VERY limited in my choices. I have to eat what is bought or don't eat at all, and when I ask my mom to change what she buys she will only get irritated and say that I won't eat if she doesn't buy junk food (which is not true). So what do I do?

First things first, as far as your height and weight, it's really pretty healthy; I would not say you are overweight. But I certainly understand your need to eat as healthy as you can to stay healthy. A normal weight comes from exercising regularly and eating well, which is the area you are concerned with.

I think that you need to sit down with your Mom and have a very serious heart-to-heart with her. Tell her that eating well is important to you as well as your health. Consider going to the grocery store with her to pick out some things that you WILL eat. Somewhere along the way, parents bought in to the idea of buying "junk" because that's what kids like and they believe it doesn't matter because they're young. Unfortunately, that couldn't be further from the truth.

Parents, be mindful of offering your kids healthy options and don't look to junk food as a reward or as being OK -- it's not. Feeding kids junk food on a regular basis just sets them up for weight and health issues down the road. It is our responsibility as parents to provide a healthy foundation for them and that includes healthy nutrition options.

Let me know how it goes! Good luck!

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